Discipline That Lasts a Lifetime: The Best Gift You Can
  • Paperback
  • 306 pages
  • Discipline That Lasts a Lifetime: The Best Gift You Can Give Your Kids: Dr. Ray Answers Your Frequently Asked Questions
  • Ray Guarendi
  • English
  • 05 October 2019
  • 1569553688

Discipline That Lasts a Lifetime: The Best Gift You Can Give Your Kids: Dr. Ray Answers Your Frequently Asked Questions❰Download❯ ➸ Discipline That Lasts a Lifetime: The Best Gift You Can Give Your Kids: Dr. Ray Answers Your Frequently Asked Questions Author Ray Guarendi – Essayreview.co.uk Author, counselor, broadcaster and dad, Dr Ray Guarendi, offers parents practical advice about disciplining children to form their children s character and to teach them the basics of living, moral re Author, counselor, broadcaster and Lasts a ePUB ↠ dad, Dr Ray Guarendi, offers parents practical advice about disciplining children to form their children s character and to teach them the basics of living, moral responsibility, and respectThe audio edition of the book can be downloaded via Audible.


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  1. says:

    Dr Guarendi s humoristic inserts can get to be irritating after a while Some people might enjoy his random quips, Maybe it will Maybe it won t I m sorry I never used to talk like that it It all started when I became a psychologist pg 124 Or, as seen in how he ends his response to a parent s questions about a child who no longer loves going to school He suggests that the separation is helpful they can t always be with you, after all and to remind the child that school is not option Dr Guarendi s humoristic inserts can get to be irritating after a while Some people might enjoy his random quips, Maybe it will Maybe it won t I m sorry I never used to talk like that it It all started when I became a psychologist pg 124 Or, as seen in how he ends his response to a parent s questions about a child who no longer loves going to school He suggests that the separation is helpful they can t always be with you, after all and to remind the child that school is not optional The closing line, though, is As one who specializes in knowing the mind of a child I often ask, Who knows the mind of a child pg 185 Some readers might enjoy his sense of humor, but I found it overused and often annoying.Yet slipped inside were some solid gems of parental wisdom Many were of the reassuring nature, such as just because someone questions your parenting strategy child, grandparent, neighbor, etc doesn t mean it s the wrong strategy to use He also makes it a point to highlight normal child development behaviors and responses, which I think are often times wrongly labeled as defiant, obstinate, and troublesome behaviors by a large portion of the adult population Few kids are going to appreciate the connection between their procrastination at bedtime, thereby choosing to get ready for bed 15 minutes earlier the next day All but a few of the most laidback meek kids will protest in some way or another their disapproval at the choice they just made Just like any adult regrets going 75 in a 60 mph speed zone once the officer is writing out his ticket Most of us just keep the long list of descriptive adjectives about our choice to ourselves knowing that if we don t we could face ANOTHER ticket Kids need practice managing their affect appropriately Dr Guarendi reminds adults that this is part of their job as caregivers to help children learn those affect management skills For kids of writing age, Dr Guarendi is clearly a fan of written consequences Disrespectful talks results in a one page essay on what respect looks like or how Mother Theresa embodied respectfulness, etc Probably one of my favorite ideas from this book was on page 161 where he mentioned his mother saying, If you have to talk like that, you need a better vocabulary and so you could suggest they find and define ten words with the letter z in the middle or find and define 15 words 3 syllables orthat end in ion A consequence like that certainly serves the additional purpose of enriching the child s vocabulary along with a kind reminder that using harmful words is not acceptable Another helpful topic was discipline at less than convenient times i.e., in the car, while on the phone, Chapter 8 He provides actual strategies, such as making it clear what the expectations are during the 5 hour car ride regarding fighting, yelling, volume level etc and then you can either stop the car if able to do so or levy the consequence when you re back home or at your destination The consequence doesn t have to be immediate, especially with children in grade school who have started to figure out cause and effect He does remind parents not to threaten what you won t back up If you can t stop the car, then don t say Knock it off or I ll pull this car over If you can, though, do it, especially if you re headed some place they want to go party, swimming, etcOn the phone the author suggests establishing the expectations first, of course, and then any infraction could be handled after the call, if you prefer not to hang up on the caller immediately For instance, any interruptions results in 15 minutes less video tv time or an older child could write a 50 word apology to both you and the person you were speaking to Just make sure the expectations and consequences are clear before your next phone call He reminds parents also to notice when your expectations ARE met, as well, and to point it out to the child and to thank her for making such a respectful choice Lastly, I did enjoy the question answer style that he used It s valuable to see what questions other parents have and to see actual do this or that tips rather than some vague kids need discipline mantra that plenty of other self proclaimed experts use By the way, the author has 10 kids of his own, so he s got some first hand knowledge of parenting, as well He got his Masters at Case Western University and his Doctoral Degree is from Kent State University I think it s always good to know where there training came from or didn t come from as is too often the case As a side note, there are occasional mentions of God woven throughout the pages for those who might care one way or another.Overall, I m grateful for the suggestion to have read this book While I still prefer authors Chick Moorman and Dr John Gottman, I do think this book is worth reading, too

  2. says:

    I continue to be a huge fan of Dr Ray If you are a parent and maybe even if you aren t you should read his books.

  3. says:

    Perhaps this book deservesthan 3 stars, because I actually think the author has very very good discipline advice My problem with the book, and therefore the marks down, is the lay out The book is broken into chapters, but honestly I don t see what the difference is between one chapter to the next Then within each chapter is just a few questions from actual parents I don t know and Dr Guarendi s answers He infuses his answers with his sense of humor, which is fine and makes it a mor Perhaps this book deservesthan 3 stars, because I actually think the author has very very good discipline advice My problem with the book, and therefore the marks down, is the lay out The book is broken into chapters, but honestly I don t see what the difference is between one chapter to the next Then within each chapter is just a few questions from actual parents I don t know and Dr Guarendi s answers He infuses his answers with his sense of humor, which is fine and makes it afun read I suppose except for the constant making up of kids names by the end, I couldn t take it anyBut as with the chapters, I didn t perceive any sort of order or similar subject among the questions in each chapter So my problem is, I ve read the whole book now, and came away with just a few nuggets tucked away in my discipline arsenal That s fine and helpful, but I would have loved, and what would have made this book soooo much better, is some sort of index, either by age or topic, or even better, BOTH Maybe the nuggets that I have tucked away suited my kids ages 5 8, but what about in 3 years when I have 8 11 aged kids I don t want to have to read the whole book again So here s what I ve done for you and for me, so I don t have to reread this Here are some highlights that I want to remember.The I m bored situation 1 Don t respond Just return an amazed look that says How could you possibly be and walk away.2 I m bored automatically leads to a an essay on the pleasures of life, b ten synonyms for activity or similar words from the dictionary, defined and used in sentences, c a written list of ten, or twenty, or whatever number of things I m grateful for 3 Create a Bore Chores jar This is my favorite Put a number of routine household chores on slips of paper into a jar or box Tell the kids that whenever you hear that somebody s bored, you will assume they are asking for something to do Whereupon they will be referred to, as one adolescent put it, the jar of torture And don t just threaten it Expressed boredom leads to chores, period The nasty talk situation 1 Each bout of nastiness leads to standing in a corner, sitting at the table with head down, or heading for their room anywhere from drive minutes to a half hour or , depending upon the child s age Time doesn t begin until all is quiet and time starts over if trouble starts over.2 For nasty talk, Gabby will a write twenty fiver times or some chosen amount a sentence of your choosing or b copy a hundred word orparagraph, which you ve composed on self control, respect for others, controlling anger, and so on or c compose her own paragraphs, with the length depending upon the severity of the outburst.3 Disrespect leads to work Job jar similar to bored jar above 4 If you want to teach respect all around, how about holding yourself answerable to the same standards We grown ups really have noright to talk mean to the kids than they do us A couple good quotes If we linked expectations for our children to our own habits, waiting to discipline until we ourselves were well disciplined, would we ever discipline Discipline is action, not talk Discipline with consequences, and you ll discipline less Discipline with mere words, and you ll disciplineAction discipline leads to calmer and quieter discipline Wordy discipline leads to louder and meaner discipline I would say this was the theme of the book and excellent advice If you keep that in mind, you don t have to read the book But I will say, he gives lots of practical discipline ideas essays, chores, lines, etc now if only I could remember them all

  4. says:

    If you are looking for a confirmation on issues you are already experiencing This book is for you I was looking for helpful ways to discipline in certain situations Many situations are listed in this book, but no methods that I was not already aware of or really helpful for my son s issues I am not disappointed, because the book was written very well with a lightness that puts you at ease After reading it you feel like you are not alone.

  5. says:

    I like to return to this one every few years to remind myself how to disciple and that it is ok, appropriate and loving to do so.I got the most out of chapters 4, 5 10 The rest is rather repetitious, especially if you listen to his radio show, but repetition is a good master and it helpful to see how he employs the same consequences to multiple different situations I like to return to this one every few years to remind myself how to disciple and that it is ok, appropriate and loving to do so.I got the most out of chapters 4, 5 10 The rest is rather repetitious, especially if you listen to his radio show, but repetition is a good master and it helpful to see how he employs the same consequences to multiple different situations

  6. says:

    Essential parenting guide especially in this day and age.

  7. says:

    Common sense, non pop psychological, moral approach to teenager problems The stuff that our grandparents would have done but with modern application.

  8. says:

    My husband and I listened to this book on the road to and from a family vacation We really enjoyed that the author himself was the one who narrated the book He has a quirky sense of humor and it comes across so much better when you hear him actually reading it himself It was entertaining and practical I did not agree with everything he said wrote Some things I felt were a little out there for us, but our daughter is also only two and a half, so we may feel differently when she gets to som My husband and I listened to this book on the road to and from a family vacation We really enjoyed that the author himself was the one who narrated the book He has a quirky sense of humor and it comes across so much better when you hear him actually reading it himself It was entertaining and practical I did not agree with everything he said wrote Some things I felt were a little out there for us, but our daughter is also only two and a half, so we may feel differently when she gets to some of the ages and stages he talked about But what irritated me the most was he would offer very in depth answers for some questions, and kind of skim over other things that neededexplanation For instance, he supposedly rebutted many of the arguments against spanking, but I was left withquestions about it after his answer I am still forming my opinions on spanking, and would like to be the kind of parent that does not resort to such punishment because spanking is punishment, not discipline , but he didn t offer a lot of practical tips on how to avoid it He even went so far as to claim it was necessary, something I am not altogether comfortable with I just wish he would have gonein depth on the spanking issue, but I realize he was dealing with all ages in this book, not just with preschoolers, which is really what I want right now But overall, a good listen, entertaining, funny, and many good tips I will take what I liked and leave the rest

  9. says:

    Gloriously confined to my room with a cold while my husband manages the children Guilty, but happy, sigh I m currently in the middle of 6 books D oh Time to finish them up or admit defeat.Over half way though this book LOVE it This is the book on discipline that I ve been needing to read It talks about some specific techniques, but it isabout empowering and encouraging parents Reading this book felt like finding water in the desert Finally, the guidance I desperately needed as Gloriously confined to my room with a cold while my husband manages the children Guilty, but happy, sigh I m currently in the middle of 6 books D oh Time to finish them up or admit defeat.Over half way though this book LOVE it This is the book on discipline that I ve been needing to read It talks about some specific techniques, but it isabout empowering and encouraging parents Reading this book felt like finding water in the desert Finally, the guidance I desperately needed as a new ish parent.I occasionally listen to the Dr Ray radio program and he can be a bit blunt harsh Somehow this book sidesteps that Reading versus hearing him is calming and encouraging.Love the question and answer format.I got this book through the library, but I want to own a copy to re read and reference in the future.UPDATE Finished read it, LOVED it, bought my own copy for future reference

  10. says:

    Great book, very useful, written in a question answer format Author is humorous, doesn t take himself too seriously Quick summary of the lessons in the book trust your instincts, not so much parenting experts although the earlier the better, it s never too late to start practicing discipline CONSEQUENCES to bad behavior, not words and explanations sometimes a good response to a child s whining is to not say anything although consistency in discipline is nice, no one is ever completely c Great book, very useful, written in a question answer format Author is humorous, doesn t take himself too seriously Quick summary of the lessons in the book trust your instincts, not so much parenting experts although the earlier the better, it s never too late to start practicing discipline CONSEQUENCES to bad behavior, not words and explanations sometimes a good response to a child s whining is to not say anything although consistency in discipline is nice, no one is ever completely consistent, so don t use that as an excuse to skip discipline don t be afraid to be considered too strict by your own kids and your peers, stay strong All sounds a bit general and common sense, but the book does have a lot of concrete suggestions in how to deal with specific behavior

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